Broken Arrows
I spent my past weekend at a T Harv Eker seminar, learning to reprogram my beliefs about money, wealth and abundance. There was probably also quite a bit of reprograming about how to buy products from T Harv Eker too 
Despite the fact that about 50% of the content was preframing, framing and then selling their other programs… I thought it was a good seminar. It covered most of the material in the book, and then a bit more. My only complaints would be: 1) some of the change processes they teach and use are slow, inefficient and… painful; 2) the seminar isn’t for everyone – there were some people there who obviously should *not* have been there, but should have been in therapy instead. And given my dislike of traditional psychological therapy, I don’t say that lightly.
While the seminar itself was fun, the most fun was had during the intermittent breaks – this was after all, the time you were supposed to go out and talk and network with people and exchange business cards…
… which leads me into my next point: networking. Or rather, effective networking.
I’m no world-class expert, but it simply amazes me how many people in business neglect even the basics. One example: the network marketers who strolled around the seminar with a clipboard and paper, literally saying to people “Hi, I’d like to keep in touch. Write down your name and contact details.”
Uh, I’m sorry, do I know you?
You would think that someone whose occupation is to sell things based on relationships would have worked out that a certain amount of trust and comfort is needed before people will buy things from you. How about “Hi, I haven’t met you yet. I’m John. How’s it going?” and then going from there?
The other thing that was incredible, were the people handing out business cards at the speed of light – why, why, WHY!!?!
Half the people who get those business cards are never going to look at them again… so why did you give them out in the first place?
A good question to ask would be… can you add value to this person’s life? If not, then why are you handing them your card?
And keep in mind that value comes in many forms – money, resources, contacts, good emotions…
The other interesting networking-related item of note is this: how many people actually take action and follow up after meeting new people, get in touch with them and establish a relationship with multiple contact points and across different contexts?
I know I sent out pings to everyone that I had met and spoken to at the seminar and exchanged contact details with. I also spoke to a number of people offering to show them some free resources related to marketing things online. They didn’t have business cards, so I gave them mine – not one of them has emailed me yet. Hmmm….
I suppose there should be some grand unifying statement that summarise this post, but there isn’t. Instead, I’ll end it with my biggest takeaway from the seminar: when it comes to living your life, do whatever it fucking takes.
If I look back on the patterns in my life, I can see that even though I have thought that I’ve been doing whatever it takes… I haven’t. I’ve been doing 95% of what it takes – and it’s that other 5% that makes all the difference.
- Aaron P
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I dislike that book for multiple reasons… Can’t imagine attending the seminar.